Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. “Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth it’s a shield.” I am pretty certain there is no such thing as perfection and hearing Brené’s research on the topic is powerful. Another piece of Brené Brown wisdom for you, “Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. I have recognized feelings of sadness or shame in myself in situations when I don’t feel like things are “perfect” enough. I think in our society we strive for perfection. I think back to moments in my life that really stand out as amazing and when I felt immense joy and those same moments are also times when I really put myself out there in a vulnerable way. In Brené’s words, “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” When you put yourself out there you are also extremely vulnerable, but that is where the great things happen. Which to most people courageous is seen as a good thing and being vulnerable is viewed as bad, when they actually go hand in hand. Boom! Brené spoke on how you can’t be courageous without being vulnerable. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy, and creativity to name a few.” I can look at my life and realize that I am so afraid sometimes to put myself out there or let myself be in situations that could be painful that I miss out on true moments of joy and belonging that are also possible. Brené Brown shared this little piece of wisdom, “I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. It was a lightbulb moment after lightbulb moment, which I am now calling a collective aha! moment.īrené Brown researches shame, vulnerability, and courage and has translated all this data into words that I can understand and made so much sense to me that my mind was blown. As she was speaking she kept saying things that were straight out of my thought book. I liked the book and found her research intriguing, but this was different. It happened at a conference this past week where Brené Brown was one of the keynote speakers. Like Tom Cruise jumping one the couch aha! moment.
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